According to a favourite source of mine, Urban Dictionary: ‘Fear Of Missing Out: A form of social anxiety – a compulsive concern that one might miss an opportunity or satisfying event.’
I am guilty of FOMO. It’s an intrinsically human feeling and these days, social media only serves to heighten that sense of ‘everyone else is having so much more fun than me’.
Last week I was invited to a little gathering. I like the group but they’re not my closest
friends. It was really nice to be invited but it wasn’t high priority for me as I already had a busy weekend lined up. I thought I wasn’t bothered about going.
But then I spent a ridiculous amount of time agonizing whether to go or not. Why was I so anxious about making a simple decision?
It was FOMO. They were all going to have themostamazingtime.
No one likes being left out. Deep down I think everyone has that very human desire to be liked, to be included, to be part of the group.
I remembered that the girl who was hosting probably had very similar fears. It’s quite a brave thing to do – invite a load of people round to your house and hope that some of them turn up. I realized that (as usual..) I was completely overanalysing the situation. There was no right or wrong answer.
In the end I did go along. It wasn’t the best thing ever. But we had good food, a few drinks and some fun chat. And that’s fine.
Stand back, recognise your FOMO for what it is and take control – it’s your life!